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19 Aug

Another sleepless night. They haven’t been happening as frequently as of late but… it seems that when I actually really need the sleep (I start class at 9am , have a group presentation and a full day) I can’t. And as usual, it’s because of a man. Or to be more precise, of men in general.

I feel like at this point, my heart is held together by bandaids. Each bandaid just a quick fix, destined to fall off, to weaken its hold. Another man, another bandaid. Another disappointment and further breakage. If my heart was a physical object, I would wonder why it hasn’t crushed to bits. I would wonder at all why I keep trying when the search for what I’m looking for is proving fruitless.

I won’t lie. I’ve dated a lot. I’ve gone on more first dates this year than I’ve got shoes. And jeez, I can’t say it’s been the best experience of my life. In fact, I’d even say I hate dating. I really do. And don’t tell me that I haven’t gone on enough dates or that I haven’t met the right guy. I’ve gone on dates with all sorts of guys. They all have different interests and occupations (or studies). I’ve gone on dates with ‘alphas’ and ‘betas’. I’ve gone to the movies, to pancake parlour, to Nobu and to the art gallery. I’ve tried dating guys I knew from uni, guys I’ve picked up at the bus stop and even online dating. But you know what, it’s mostly all ended up with me feeling the same way : hating men.

Maybe I should get a guidebook or something but men are confusing. They don’t really seem to know what they want. They’re not upfront about things or they just plain straight out lie. Maybe I’m going through dating the wrong way. Maybe I should’ve gone about it as if it was a game. Maybe I should be a cold icy bitch. Maybe I should always let the guy pay. Maybe I shouldn’t be honest and maybe I shouldn’t be myself. Maybe I should be docile and quiet. Because it seems as if I’m going about everything all wrong. Because it all ends the same way. Disappointing. Heartbreaking.

I can’t say I’m a romantic. I know that I won’t get flowers and I’ll be lucky if he even decides to pick up the bill for dinner. I know that he’ll talk about himself a bit too much and I’ll have to laugh (because it’s polite). I know that he won’t hold my hand or walk me home. I know not to expect too much. But perhaps it’s all these thoughts that are setting me up for failure.  Maybe that’s why I’ve been happy to settle for something less than what I truly deserve. Maybe that’s why even though I try my best for every relationship, my partner never does the same.

My last boyfriend (whom I broke up with recently) I probably shouldn’t have dated for as long as I did. My friends would ask, “Why are you dating him?” and I would tell them that he enjoys affection. He pays for dinner and he was polite with my family. Which is all well and good but… even I knew deep down that… I shouldn’t have stayed. Whilst he was good in some areas, in others, he was severely lacking in. The things that weren’t right… weren’t enough… If I had been the me before I became this broken, I wouldn’t have accepted. I would have just left it at that and I would’ve moved on.

But I didn’t. I stayed. I stayed through the doubts, and the problems. I stayed through the silence and I stayed long enough to let myself get hurt. And I wonder why? Why is it so hard to find magic? Why is it so hard to find someone who could like me for me? Why is so hard to find someone who wouldn’t use me? Why is it so hard to find someone who wants more than just a night of ‘fun’? Why is it so hard to find someone who is at least a little bit right?

All I want is a good guy. A guy good enough to be happy with. And no more sleepless nights. Please.

My grandfather.

7 Jun

My general impression is that when people reminisce about primary school, they start to think about all the fun times ; the lack of the piles of homework and the proud grins after conquering the monkey bars. My own impressions of primary school are mostly hazy save for this one very strong memory: the memories of going home as a prep- grade 3 student. Those years were the years that I was driven home by my grandfather.

If you’re wondering why the memories of my grandfather are the strongest… well, my grandfather passed away when I was in year 9. He was the first grandparent I had that passed away and it was the toughest death for me to deal with. We all knew he was weak but it still happened out of nowhere. I remember the day we found out better than the morning I just had. I remember the days that followed and the black cloud that just followed my family for the year that afterwards. I remember the pain and the heartache I suffered because even now, every time I think about him, I want to cry.

We had a family gathering tonight, as we usually do every saturday night, and the parents decided to start discussing primary school. My aunts want my youngest aunt to transfer her child to the primary school I went to as a child as she’s expecting her second child and they want the eldest closer so they can help with pick up. As I was listening to them discuss the school, my memory flashed to the memory of a warm hand. I remember the bony fingers clutching my own tiny fingers tightly. I remember my feelings of reluctance and I remember not wanting to hold that hand because none of the other kids held hands with their parent. I remember dragging my feet and feeling embarrassed because I wanted to be just like every other kid. I remember wishing that my mum or dad would pick me up just like everyone elses’ because it was my grandfather who picked me up. In the blistering summer heat, he would drive to my school in his old red car that had no air conditioner. He would wear his thick corduroy jacket because he was afraid of the sun’s rays. He would be extremely hot but he would still come to my school and wait outside my classroom for me. And I felt embarrassed by this.

As a child, I didn’t know any better. I was always getting bullied and all I wanted to do was become one of the popular kids. Now, I regret the way I acted. Now, I regret not chatting to him. Now, I regret the resentment I had against him as a child because now, even if I wanted to see him, I can’t and it breaks my heart. More than any pain I’ve ever received from a rejection; and even more than my biggest break up. My heart breaks to think that I took those moments for granted; that I hated those moments because now, I want them so badly.

I wish I could go back in time and make sure the childish me cherished the effort he put into picking me up. I wish I could go back in time and make sure I smiled at him when I saw him at the door instead of the disappointed frown I exhibited. I wish I could redo those moments because now they are impossible to replicate.

I guess I’m telling you this story because even though we’re all grown up now, I don’t know if you’re cherishing your moments. I don’t know whether you take the time your parents or grandparents give you for granted. Because I’m hoping you don’t. I’m hoping that you realise that the only guarantees we have in life are the past and now. Tomorrow or even the next hour might not even happen. We can’t predict the future. So treasure the time people give you. Treasure your family whether they’re biological or not. Put down your phones when you’re at dinner with them. Give them your full attention because they damn well deserve it. Don’t take them for granted because you never know when you might lose them and then spend the rest of your life crying about it like I do.

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9 Apr

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Moving.

9 Apr

It’s been awhile since my last post but I’m feeling stressed. And what do I do when I’m feeling overwhelmed? I write about it.

Geez… where to start though… Well. I’m moving this week. Yep. After nearly 20 years of being in the same suburb and living around the same people; I’m moving about a 15 minute drive away. It’ll take me an extra 20 minutes to get to university and I won’t be so close to the asian goodness that is Springvale anymore but it’s a quieter neighbourhood and I’ll finally be only sharing my bathroom with my sister… who I’m hoping will finally leave things where they belong and not take them into her room (I’ve gone through at least 5 pairs of tweezers!). However… it also means that I’ll need to downsize the amount of stuff I have. Right now my room is 5mx3m and I’ll be moving into a 2.5x2m room… which is a big downgrade. It means that I’ll have to somehow halve my clothing which should be easy as I always wear the same sort of stuff. But it’s not. I keep making excuses like “I’ll eventually want to wear this but if I throw it away, i’ll have to buy it again”. It doesn’t help it that my parents are telling me the same thing either. “Keep it, you’ll need it”. I might want it again some day, but at the same time my new closet space is only half of what i currently have so I have to throw things away and I don’t know how to do that. Tips please? or maybe just be the wise person by my side who doesn’t let me weaken my resolve? Aside from moving, there’s my confusion about my identity.

If you know me then you also know that I’m pretty much accepting of who I am and I’m not afraid to be me. Forget social cues and polite conversation, I can’t do either and I’ll talk your head off about the best dick size or I’ll be praising self-love. I knew who I was but now, I’m not so sure. I’m feeling lost and really confused about myself at the moment. If I thought you could handle it, I would’ve told you about this because this isn’t something that most people understand. In fact, I’d say that most people reject this. If that doesn’t give you a clue as to what I’m confused about then… well. let’s just say that if there were still witch hunts, I’d be on the top of the list.

It’s not exactly about my sexuality (bi/pansexual in case you were wondering) but it’s something else. it’s something else that is crucial to my identity. And I would love to be honest about it but I feel that if I did, there would be so much judgement left at my door. If I’m already not judged enough for who I am, then this would make it worse. This is worse than the confusion I was going through when I was coming out of the metaphorical closet. It’s stressful hiding who I am but at the same time, it’s stressful being who I am. I don’t want to be thinking about this new quality that I know about myself or at least think I know. If I didn’t already think I wasn’t a decent enough human being, then this will make it worse.

Sigh. Well there it is. That is me right now, sharing what I can to the world.

Ninja Love: Munenori Yagyu Walkthrough

13 Jan

Munenori is the most mysterious guy out of the men. He’s cruel and cold but you’ll find him to be loving in the end. He’s probably the most beautiful and sexy.

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  • Job: Yagyu
  • Weapon: Sword
  • Height: 182cm
NOTE: The leader of the Yagyu family, he’s famous as a tactician as well as a swordsman, making both a good warrior and good scholar. His actions are in the name of his family, and he is always rational. Few people know of his true feelings. The Yagyu family is known for it’s swordsmanship, but it seems some of them move around in the shadows just as much as ninjas do.
In order to get the happy ending, these will be your choices.
A: Thank him.
EVENT PICTURE #1
B: Wha, what?!
C: Don’t touch me!
B: That’s cute!
EVENT PICTURE #2
A: Speak up.
C: You poor thing.
A: …Yes.
B: Not true.
C: Shake head.
EVENT PICTURE #3
B: It feels strange.
C: Keep talking!
A: …I don’t know.
A: …I’m scared.
C: You did right!
EVENT PICTURE #4
C: Your thoughts.
B: You liar!
A: Yes.
C: Take off my…?!
B: I’m sorry…
A: I’m shaking…
C: Does it hurt?
A: Don’t tell me!
B: We part tonight?
A: The code?
B: …Okay.
EVENT PICTURE #5
C: Don’t die…
These are your CGs
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You will also get 7 letters from Munenori in your mailbox.
1. If you want me to protect you…
2. Cross me again…
3. Don’t slack off
4. Good job today
5. What’s wrong with you?
6. How’ve you been?
7. Sorry
SIDE STORY ANSWERS
Sweet Ceremony: 
Our wedding is getting near, nevertheless, they start talking about Munenori taking concubine. It’s Yagyu custom to marry few women to generate sufficient offspring. For the good of Yagyu clan I know I have to accept this but…
A:  Why would I be? (Normal ending)
B: Are you jealous? (Happy ending)
Temptation Love: 
You and Munenori come see a sword tournament. “If I win, come marry me.” Musashi’s offer surprises you. You’re already married to Munenori!
A: I’m already married (Happy Ending)
B: A- Alright. (Normal Ending)
First Anniversary:
He’s forgotten your wedding anniversary. “You can do whatever you want” He offers as an apology. You ask him…!
A: Okay (Normal Ending)
B: Not yet (Happy Ending)

Ninja Love: Musashi Miyamoto Walkthrough

2 Nov

Musashi is on the quest to prove his power and worth and he doesn’t care if he dies in pursuit. Musashi is my absolute favourite. His story is sweet and he’s probably my ideal guy.

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  • Job: Ronin
  • Weapon: Two swords
  • Height: 187cm
NOTE: This master swordsman is known for fighting with 2 blades at a time. He doesn’t belong to any clan or region and his sole purpose is to find strong fighters. He has no interest in anything but swords, and it is said he doesn’t even think about anything else. Apparently, he’s pretty cute when he’s not carrying his swords, but once he grabs his blades, he becomes a merciless warrior. What will his quest for power lead to?
In order to get the happy ending, these will be your choices.
C: …
EVENT PICTURE #1
A: Why do this?
B: Fight back.
B: I was relieved.
A: I am pitiful.
C: It’s okay.
A: I was desperate.
EVENT PICTURE #2
B: Again?
C: Laugh.
A: You aren’t alone now.
B: I don’t want you hurt.
A: Is your sword so important?!
A: Not angry!
EVENT PICTURE #3
B: W-what?
C: You don’t have to.
B: Then why ask?
A: This isn’t your job.
B: As much as you want.
C: I’m not cute.
B: We will win!
A: Are you jealous?
EVENT PICTURE #4
B: Why did you bite me?
A: Please let him!
C: You already do!
EVENT PICTURE #5
B: All I need is you.
C: Don’t want that.
These are your CGs
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You will also get 8 letters from Musashi in your mailbox.
1. No title
2. Sorry
3. You’re kinda cool
4. Goodnight
5. No title
6. Make sure you’re taken care of all right?
7. You’re special
8. Don’t keep any secrets
SIDE STORY ANSWERS
Sweet Ceremony: 
Being violent and killing others was part of Musashi’s duty. Deep down, Musashi has somewhat worry about his present happiness. While the cocky Munenori, Musashi’s ally has always [had] a crush on me, certainly did not miss a chance to seduce me when there is any to tell me “I can be wild between the sheets”
A: No ! (Normal ending)
B: Okay. (Happy ending)
Temptation Love: 
Musashi’s teaching you sword fighting. “I wish I could protect you…” Hanzo holds you… his arms are different from Musashi’s…
A: You really are kind. (Normal ending)
B: Even so, I love Musashi. (Happy ending)
First Anniversary:
He practices swordplay even on your wedding anniversary… “Let’s have a bath” He takes off your kimono and…!
A: Stay (Happy ending)
B: Get out (Normal Ending)

Ninja Love: Goemon Ishikawa Walkthrough

18 Oct

Goemon is absolutely gorgeous and he knows it. He’s bossy and a complete womanizer but you will discover that that might just be a front…

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  • Job: Iga ninja
  • Weapon: Giant throwing knives
  • Height: 185cm
NOTE: As a ninja he has great authoritative powers. He stands out a bit when moving on his own, but he takes his job seriously, and he can be trusted to do anything all by himself. However… He’s quite a bit of a player. He has been instructed not to lay his hands on you, princess.
In order to get the happy ending, these will be your choices.
A: Understood.
EVENT PICTURE #1
B: Reject.
B: Forbear.
A: I’m not giving up!
A: We have to stop this!
C: Th-thats…! (panicking)
B: I know that.
EVENT PICTURE #2
A:I was so glad…
B: Wait a minute!
C: Cry.
A: I’m not a good drinker…
C: It’s not the time to get depressed!
A: I’m very happy!
C: Stop him.
EVENT PICTURE #3
A: I’m prepared!
B: I can’t do that!
A: She is beautiful…
C: I’m not OK!
B: Please tell me the truth!
EVENT PICTURE #4
A:Really?
C: You’re kidding?
A: No i’m not.
C: No, I’ll go with him.
B: Of course!
C: I know it is!
EVENT PICTURE #5
A: I won’t allow it!
These are your CGs
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You will also get 9 letters from Goemon in your mailbox.
1. I told you before…
2. Good job today
3. Come on, you!
4. Be careful!
5. Geez….
6. Sorry
7. Keep your chin up
8. Another good day
9. Sorry
SIDE STORY ANSWERS
Sweet Ceremony:
The day before our wedding, I overheard Kuma telling Lord Hanzo how Goemon seduced Kuma last night. I can’t believe what I heard. How could he even do this to me whilst the big day is getting so near?
A: You and Kuma… (Happy Ending)
B: I was worried. (Normal Ending)
Temptation Love: 
You feel jealous when you see Goemon surrounded by girls! During his absence, Sasuke visits you.,. You involuntarily bury your face in his chest….
A: Maybe I should. (Normal ending)
B: You and your jokes! (Happy ending)
First Anniversary:
He has to work late on your wedding anniversary… the date is cancelled. But he takes you to…!
A: Thank you! (Normal ending)
B: I Love you! (Happy ending)

 

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